I'd guess the memory is sufficient, but the processing is almost certainly insufficient to reach the rates you want for a coupled run. I don't have any direct experience with ExoCAM, but the recent paper about it said it takes ~180 processor hours per model year on an Intel Haswell for a 4x5-degree run. So on a 16-core node, that's 11.25 hours per model year, or just over two simulated years per day (SYPD). It's probably more than ~4x slower to go to 2-degree, and another ~4x or so to go to 1-degree. Even accounting for faster processors and more cores, I think it's incredibly unlikely you get close to 160 - 180 SYPD (80-90 years in 12 hours) in a coupled ExoCAM + CLM configuration, and certainly not at 1-degree.
To give some numbers I do have from standard CESM, a CAM4 aquaplanet case at 2-degrees and 26 vertical levels gets ~28 SYPD on our 36-core Intel Broadwell nodes and I can hit ~84 SYPD on a modern, 96-core AMD Zen3 node. Going to 1-degree, it drops to ~5.5 SYPD on our 36-core Broadwell system, and I haven't run it on the AMD node, but would expect a similar scaling.
The land model in these cases is usually quite fast - on an F2000climo case (which has CLM5 w/ SP), the land model achieves ~80 SYPD on 2-degrees, and ~23 SYPD on 1-degree cases on our system. But again, coupling with the atmosphere will slow that down. In case you're curious, backing up my guess about the memory, in these F2000climo runs, using CAM6 at 32 vertical levels, the memory needed is approximately 36GB (1-degree) and 21GB (2-degree). With more vertical levels you'll need slightly more, but 64GB is still likely sufficient.
In short, for coupled ExoCAM + CLM runs, your memory is fine but you likely won't hit the performance goals you want, especially with a single i9. For simplified land-only runs, it likely could reach those rates on a decent server/workstation. If you guys can provide timing files from runs, maybe I could offer a bit more insight, but does that help at all in the meantime?